Why Men Are ... the Early Years Part 2

This continues from Part 1

Into The Light:

Our first guides into the light are usually a bit incestous.

That's right ... as children, most of our discoveries would be with those closest to us - siblings, neighbours and relatives. That's all right, some would say even normal - so long as none of them were adults.

If you had a big family from a family not so well-off, then it is highly probable that you would bunk together with your siblings at night - regardless of gender.

And in a lot of cases, children will stay up and play - especially after they know their parents have gone to bed. Simply a case of when the parents are away, fingers go walkabout and play.

Siblings share - and some of the things shared remain secrets even up to adulthood.

In other cases, these guides are neighbours or relatives - normally those of the same age as you are. And then there are the cousins. Especially those from the more down-to-earth parts of the country.

With non-siblings, things normally work up from the usual play. From playing batu serembam (nowadays apparently a high-level government scientific project) to main kejar-kejar (playing tag) and playing house.

I was blessed with some really good-looking cousins who come visiting quite often.

We have a huge garden and backyard (more "side"-yard actually), and so the games we played were normally out of the sight of adults.

The normal drill for us would be to get the visiting kids to play house, then followed by main kejar-kejar and then when we tired of it, the group will break up and some will drift off into the main house, leaving the rest lepak-ing near the garage.

Playing house is usually a concession at the start that the boys will make to the girls when they were just starting to get to know each other.

The lesson being learned here was that if you play along with them, then they'll be more amenable to be playing along with you later. Something that continue to be true even as we grew up into adults.

What I found was that any interest perked while playing house will normally be enhanced by the bodily contact while playing kejar-kejar. Not only the boys but the females are equally devious in getting their hands on the ones that they fancy.

You know the drill - boy chases girl, girl runs off shrieking, boy catches up fast, girl tries to evade by swerving, boy runs into girl and they both fall together in a tangle of limbs.

If there was previous interest, there will be an lingering exchange of flushed looks before disentanglement. And of course further incidents of crash, fall and entanglement.

It was great foreplay of sorts.

You also learned that females are just as curious (and devious) as males are when it comes to gettingto grips with what they fancy.

Then later when the group breaks up in search of drinks etc, you will sometimes find yourself alone with an interested party in a dim garage.

Best of all is when you know the interested party is also sleeping over.

At the end of it all, you would probably have one or more of the following;

1. Your fingers wet and sticky

2. Your spindle handled

3. A kiss or two (yuck! for a kid)

4. A clearer view of previously mysterious feminine territory

Of course, all these that you have learned at great risk will set you up nicely for the more formative years.

That is when you reach puberty - as this young fella demonstrates below.